Steve Beseke
To effectively deal with my career and life ups and downs (please see my previous post), I periodically ask myself this resiliency question: What makes me the happiest about myself for that particular moment?
- Is it something great I have accomplished at work?
- Is it that I remembered to kiss my beautiful wife when I got up in the morning?
- Is it that I effectively handled a typical challenge from my teenage daughter?
- Is it that I thought positive things about myself that day without sweating the small stuff?
I have found resiliency is more than just dealing with the big things in life – a death of a family member, losing one’s job or dealing with many other family or work situations. It is more about the smaller things we do everyday that make us feel good about ourselves and able to adapt successfully when unforeseen events happen.
My resiliency challenge for you this week is to do one thing that makes you happy, which has been off your radar screen for awhile. Maybe it is kissing your spouse or actually having a meaningful conversation with one or all of your children. Or it may be helping a co-worker with a work project even though you are not assigned to do it. These are actions within your control and are easily doable if only you give a small portion of your time.
Over time, they will help build the resiliency and inner-feeling of good inside you when dealing with things not always within your control. These may be the unreasonable request from your boss, the 10-item To Do list at home, or your car going nuts as you need to go to an important event.
I’d love to hear from you and how you chose your particular action. How did it go and did you begin feeling that inner-sense of good? I suggest choosing one item like this per week, and you will begin to see the total sense of resiliency you build up moving forward.
Take care my friends.
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